Why Cheat?

When people around are splitting up from their significant others, I tend to wonder why it happened and where did it went wrong. Bukan nak sibuk sibuk atau busy body ke apa ke. It is just human nature yang penuh dengan curiosity. Konon. Sebenarnya the one thing that bothers me so much is when people cheat. Be it a women or men. People around us cheat. Take note that this post has no means in doing any personal attack to anyone. It is just a thought that I have in this mind. No personal attack. No particular person :)

Why cheat in the first place? If you fall in love with another person or if you feel like fooling around with someone else, then leave. BUT. That statement is not to be understood to mean that ‘cheating is okay’. Just tell your current gf/bf that you wanna split or give them that ‘kita tak sehaluan’ phrase. Oh ya2 or another one; ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ famous phrase. See, tak susah kan. Splitting is okay (or maybe it’s not but who cares), just tell and leave.

I am definitely not advocating for cheating to be ‘legalised’. At the same time I am also not against those who would want to have their life back on track with someone new. If there is no such haluan and what not, then pergilah cari haluan baru. Just do it the right way. The problem with us, in the society, bak kata orang melayu, suka buat ‘scandal’ , cari ‘scandal’ and be with a ‘scandal’. Scandal make cheating sounds okay nowadays. ‘Scandal’ word itself dah diguna dengan salah. Inikan pula konsep.

Being unfaithful is a crime. Being unfaithful is being in any kind of relationship that involves emotional and (especially) physical relationship. Those flirtatious messages, comments or cyber affairs constitute to cheating. I wonder when a person cheats, does he/she not think about the consequences that they might have to face? There’s a name of it. What is it called again? Oh ye. Karma. Bayangkan if you cheated on your current gf/bf with another men/women and the next thing you know, TUVV that men/women flirt with someone else pula. Kan ke tak best tu.

What I can tell by looking at people around is, they wanna have the best of both world. That is why they don’t leave. They tend to stay and cheat. It is WRONG to stay. To have the pity thought of leaving the current bf/gf is WRONG. To stay because you have no heart to leave them is WRONG. Staying because you cannot bare the feeling of hurting is FREAKING WRONG and bloody sell fish. In any way, you will definitely hurt an innocent feeling. So why bother. If you really care in the first place, you won’t even have eyes glued on other people.

Bottom line, it is important to be honest. Even if being honest means hurting them. Everyone has the right to be treated fairly. I am for one, very grateful to be in a relationship with a guy that offers me love that no one could ever give. Jodoh, ajal, pertemuan, semua ditangan Allah. The best that we can do is to pray for the best, for us and for our significant others. I better stop now for I am a girl who knows not much about being in a perfect fairy-tale relationship. We don’t even have that kind of relationship. We just do it our way. J